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" I'm just waiting for someone to come along and make me happy"

You are depressed, lonely and feel something is missing in your life. You feel like your life is a complete mess and come to think that "If I can just find someone to love me no matter what, I'll be happy. but I dont think he exists." WRONG!

when your life is a mess, happy and stable people tend to avoid you. They look for those who are basically happy and stable. While You are miserable and depressed, you'll only attract people who have big problems. Then both of you will have twice the misery. remember, you are who you surround yourself with, if people who you surround yourself yourself with are happy, you too are happy.

The same applies to waiting for lovers. We have to sort ourselves out first. If I say to you, "Love me enough, and I'm sure I'll stop trying to kill myself." that's bound to put a strain on the relationship.

Other people can help to make us happier, but we need to be able to control our life first. When we wait fir people to arrive and fix everything, is like we're waiting for disappointment. WHY? because, if they dont arrive, we'll get more depressed; but, if they do arrive but don't behave as we want to, then we'll still get depressed. then we come at them and say "YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO MAKE ME HAPPY!"

in some songs and movies, people say " I was a nobody 'till i met you" but in real life, that is very unhealthy. you have to be a SOMEBODY first. It's no good being somebody's other half when YOU ARE A WHOLE PERSON.

Moral of the story: 

We must remind ourselves that we are a whole person. we must recognize our own value. If we depend on others to do it - and if they dont- we get totally disappointed. If you're lonely and depressed, finding for someone to love you wont help. Find someone whom you can GIVE friendship without expectations. Love yourself to for others to love, respect and take care of yourself enough and people will do the same to you.

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if you have any questions, reactions (even violent ones. lol ) or if you just want someone to talk to please feel free to comment on the comment section below. or tweet me at https://twitter.com/HisLoveIsPure and lets be friends! I Love You to the moon and back, even if I dont know you, I still care. and Let me remind you that you may not have everything but the creator of all things loves you endlessly and is so proud of you. You're beautiful, don't ever waste your time because you will never be young as you are now. be a blessing in someone's life. :) xx

Serious Issues: Fake Friends

                     

"You are a little lost, with a million questions running through your head, a fork in the path, which do you take? You stop and turn around, taking a few steps backwards and ask for directions. They're there sitting in front of you, beautiful smile upon their lips, the kind that draws you in, you see kindness in their eyes, and sit down next to them, asking the way. First, you must explain why you are lost, and what led you down the wrong path, the story spilling from your lips like drops of rain, as they sympathetically nod their heads, that smile never leaving their face. They are such a good listener you say to yourself, your trust in them growing as you continue to spout out your life story, until they know every sordid detail, before offering their “sage” advice. 
You listen intently, before parting ways, taking the path they pointed out that led through the trees. Slowly the deeper you crawl, the trees begin to point and snicker, the birds whispering your name…. yet you continue on…. As you move the whispers become fragmented sentences of the story you told that kindly face a mile back, only twisted, warped, and deluded to sound far worse then it was meant to be. 
Stopping dead in your tracks you realize you put your trust in the wrong person, expected them to keep your secrets because you would have done the same for them, just to find you were led blindly, and now live with the dawning realization you were nothing but a joke to them, a story to spread around, another rumor, but little do they know the jokes on them, the moment they lost your trust, but your friendship, and the loss is nothing more than their own.”

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We all meet that person that we think they are the one; they are the one that we will spend our lifetime with; share our tears and laughter and give advice to each other, and call them our Best Friends. but do they really treat you, the way you treat them? just let me remind you that, Not everybody is your friend. Just because they hang out with you and laugh with you doesn’t mean they’re there for you. Just because they say they’ve got your back doesn’t mean they won’t eventually stab you in it. People pretend well. Jealousy sometimes doesn’t live far, so know your circle. At the end of the day, real situations can expose fake people, so pay attention.

You might not notice that, as time passes by,the person who you used to trust your secrets with is the one who is spreading it to the whole world, the one who is talking nonsense crap behind your back. but just to tell you darling, it's normal. Don't ever cry or react right away. Take time to think, inhale, exhale. don't you ever think about revenge!Remember, Happiness is the best revenge. Be Happy. Avoid them as possible but you might wanna smile at them just to piss them off. *winks* Sometimes, friends are just like drugs, when you are with them, you get happy and forget some of your problems, but when you start to get really close to them and be with them all the time, everything starts to change, without you noticing it; everything starts to collapse, your attitude, the way you treat your loved ones, especially your parents. Choose the right friends.  Yes, not all drugs are bad, but once you overdose it, that's a another story.  .






I believe you could assume that we all do it. We all talk behind someone’s back at one point or another. Talking behind someone’s back is the start of gossip, rumors, fights, anger, insecurity, self-consciousness, and much more. Sometimes there is a brave soul who stands up for the victim. Defends them for they most likely know the person better. Most of the time, however, we all just sit, listen, and even sometimes throw in little comments ourself. Humanity is cruel. Society is a ruin. We need more brave souls to give justice to those who do not know they are a victim. When engaged in a conversation that turns into gossip behind one’s back, take a stand. Defend that individual. They will forever be grateful.
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Bible Verses to give you strength: 

Psalms 41: 4-12

As for me, I said, “O Lord, be gracious to me;heal me, for I have sinned against you!”

My enemies say of me in malice “When will he die, and his name perish?”

And when one comes to see me, he utters empty words,while his heart gathers iniquity;

when he goes out, he tells it abroad. All who hate me whisper together about me;

they imagine the worst for me. They say, “A deadly thing is poured out on him;

he will not rise again from where he lies.”  Even my close friend in whom I trusted,

who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.  But you, O Lord, be gracious to me,

and raise me up, that I may repay them! By this I know that you delight in me:

my enemy will not shout in triumph over me. But you have upheld me because of my integrity, and set me in your presence forever.

1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Proverbs 13:20

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

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Inspiring quotes :

If you have three people in your life that you can trust, you can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world.-Selena Gomez 

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some songs too: