Life's Biggest Questions

WHO? WHERE? WHEN? WHY? HOW? these are the common questions we ask about our lives. WHO exactly are we? WHERE is life taking us? WHEN will we find our prince charming? ( this one's for the girls *winks*) WHY is life so messed up? HOW to deal with life? and to get the answers of these questions, we run directly to *drum roll* Google. I bet some of you do that. like How to Deal with bullies? When is the perfect time? and we click on WikiHow and follow the steps. I gotcha didn't I?
We tend to run to Google without knowing that there is a manual for our life. This book is full of Do and Don'ts that we should and shouldn't do.
It's like a inventor-invention relationship. For example, a hammer. *story time!*
once upon a time there was a lonely hammer. he was in a box for days already. He kept singing who am I? but one day, someone opened the box! he became so happy! at last! so the person got the hammer and start to use it to break the wall. The hammer was unhappy, he felt that it wasn't it's main purpose in life. The inventor suddenly hopped in the situation and said "NO, thats not how you do it!" he got the hammer and a nail and pounded the nail using the hammer; and the hammer was like " you NAILED it!"
see, No one will know the real purpose of the invention except the inventor itself; it goes the same with our lives. there must be someone who invented us, there must be someone who truly knows our purpose in life; and it's no other than our almighty GOD. he sent the book of life, the HOLY BIBLE. The holy bible is the manual in our life. Everything is stated there, from the beginning of life until what is going to happen at the end.

Moral of the Story: We all have areas where we need to come up higher. Perhaps you’ve struggled with a certain area year after year. Instead of getting down on yourself or trying to find solutions on the internet, maybe it’s time to pray and say, “God, I need Your help. I’m asking for Your strength.”

When you humble yourself and admit that you cannot do it on your own, that’s when God can enter the scene. That’s when He can turn it around. A lot of times we think of dependency in a negative light, but dependency on God is not a weakness; it’s a strength. It enables you to tap into His power. When we yield our weakness, that’s when God shows up the strongest. But when we don’t turn to God, really, that’s a sign of pride. We’re saying, “God, I don’t really need You to help me run my life. I’m doing okay. I’ve got it all figured out.” God will step back and let us do it on our own.

Today, what is holding you back? Surrender it to God. Let Him do His perfect work. Find strength in your dependency on Him.

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if you have any questions, reactions (even violent ones. lol ) please feel free to comment on the comment section bellow. or tweet me at https://twitter.com/HisLoveIsPure and lets be friends! ILY and Let me remind you that someone from up above loves you and so proud of you. You're beautiful xx

Serious Issues: teenage relationships

When you spend many years with someone you start to plan out your lives together. You start to think of what it would be like to have them as a spouse, what kind of jobs you’ll have, what your children will look like, and what decor you will put in your perfect little house on a hill. Most of these things are just dreaming, not too serious. The bad thing about that is that you hold on to these thoughts. You keep that image in your head of your future together. Yes, they are beautiful thoughts that can bring you up when you’re down. But, when that relationship is broken, you lose that imaginary future as well. In your head, you have built this imaginary life together which is now suddenly shattered. No more marriage, kids, and that house on a hill.

This planning of the future thing is all too common now days. Young people are building lives together that sometimes seem obvious that they will end. Some are moving in, others are having children. Without judging these people realize that every teenage couple has come across these situations whether it be actual or just in thought. It has become the “norm”. “Planning for the future” should be called “growing up too fast” in all actuality.

These thoughts are selfish. There is no way around it. You are building up your mate just to let them down when the inevitable end has come. You set so much into this idea of a perfect future. There is no perfect future in reality (on Earth), but struggle and desire and fear. When it is obvious that this future will never happen, never be complete, you feel as if your entire future has been stripped away from you. You feel like you are left with nothing. Nothing but memories. Save your significant other from the pain. Don’t drag them around with thoughts of a happy home and beautiful kids. Selfish. Respect your heart and your love’s heart. Remember how old you are.

“Try” and any other form of the word is brought up a lot in relationships. “I’m trying,” “I tried,” “At least try.” If I can give anyone who is reading this any advice to take with them, it’s don’t TRY. Settling for anything less than “I will” is not sustainable. Don’t start pointing fingers. You know you do it too. You don’t want to tell your partner that you are trying. Trying is something that lacks. You want to sacrifice for your love. You need to sacrifice for your love. Trying gives you a greater chance to fall back into the pit of failing.

“Change” is another word used a lot in relationships. Either you or your partner is wanting to change or wanting the other to change. I’ve learned that change is a two way street. Don’t even think about expecting them to change if you cannot change yourself. Face it, you are not the saint in the relationship. They are suffering or compromising your faults and you are screaming “CHANGE”? Change first, and change will follow.

Keep your comments to yourself. We all have that one friend who you tell all your relationship drama to. The one who every single time you are together, you relinquish all the crap you and your relationship is going through. Most of the time, face it, you aren’t going through that much crap. It is the toxicity of the conversations or the personality of the friends (and yourself) that is negative. It brings up all of the drama inside you. You have become two faced. You sit with your boyfriend or girlfriend and say, “I love you, we can work on this” then the next minute you are with a friend and say, “I hate him/her. I wish I was single.” Then, the moment of break up, be expected to get, “You weren’t happy anyway, so why are you sad?” Don’t be that. It all goes with respecting yourself and your partner. Would you want them to do that to you?

“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” – Mathew 7:3-5

Having that person who was your high school sweetheart, you experience many firsts in each others lives. The memories you make together are something that can never be erased from your mind. When you think of a memory, good or bad, it instantly reminds you of them. Because they were there through it all with you. The places you went, the friends you had, the memories you made will forever be a reminder of them.

I may sound like I've been through a relationship but I have never been in it before. but I was that kind of friend that people run to for their relationship dramas. I know, it hurts Regret is all I can think about. But, without that regret you won't be stronger. Remember, People come and Go; they are either a blessing or a Lesson.Please, if you are in a relationship or will someday in the future, give them the best you can give. Because If you dont it will leave you with nothing.

I know that we are young. We “have our whole lives ahead of each other,” like people try to tell me lately. You wonder why there are so many lines in songs that say something about a high school sweetheart. It’s because it hurts like you can’t even imagine. When you are young you want nothing more than to grow up. Well I am living proof that it does no good to sit and dream about growing up.

Give your love the best of you. Don’t try, don’t beg for change, don’t create an imaginary future, don’t drag or lead them on, don’t keep your issues inside, don’t make them look like a bad person in front of your friends, don’t be embarrassed by them on how they look or act, don’t two-time them, don’t cheat on them – don’t even think about it, don’t lie and don’t settle for anything less than butterflies in your stomach every time you look at them.

Thanks for listening. Thanks for our memories. 


“Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. “ – 1 Corinthians 13:5

Life Lessons

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there. They serve some sort of Purpose, teach you a lesson or help you figure out who you are or who you want to be.  You never know who these people may be; your classmate, your neighbor, teacher, long lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger who when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you and at that time they seem horrible, painful and unfair but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never have realized your potential and strength. Everything Happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance, accident or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, Heartbreaks , injury, love, lost moments or true greatness and sheer stupidity all occurs to test the limits of the soul. Without these small tests, life would be dull and pointless. The persons that you will meet will affect you life and successes and downfalls you will experience, they are the ones who create who you are. Even the bad experiences can be learned from, those lessons are the hardest. and probably the most important ones are if someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have taught you about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. and don't worry about revenge, leave it all to god, and god will punish them at the right time. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things that you have never seen or felt without them. Make everyday count. appreciate every moment for you will never be able to experience them again. Talk to people you have never talked to before and listen, let yourself fall in love and break free. Create your own life and go out and live it, but start it in the name of God and know that he is always there. I wish you all the best in your ups as well as your downs in life. have a fighting spirit and dont hesitate to get back in the struggle! 

words I would say to you

" For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." jeremiah 29:11

No matter what is may be happening today or tomorrow, remember that God has always good things in store for your future! He never said it would be easy, and it will never be easy, but he has already lined up a new beginning, new relationships and new doors opened for you.
Maybe you've experienced some ups and downs, but dont make the mistake of expecting the same for your future. always keep in mind that God always have good plans for your life. our attitude should always be like someone who never worries. God is walking before you, he has set everything, he chose you before the world was even created. why worry when you have GOD?

God doesn’t want you to go through life constantly struggling, always burdened down, or always fighting against something. Yes, we know that trials will come in this earthly life, which makes us depressed. There may be some seasons that are more difficult than others; where you have lost all hope but, we can’t just settle where we are and accept that it’s always going to be this way. Stand up, stay strong and know that the Father will always be there. He wants to lead you to a good land with no shortage and no lack. He wants to cause you to remain in His provision and blessing. The key is that when difficulty comes, instead of focusing on where you are, instead of dwelling on how things won’t work, turn your focus toward Him. Lift up your eyes to heaven. Cast your cares on the Lord. Don’t let the heaviness of the world drag you down. Put your faith and hope in Him knowing that He has good things in store for your future. Keep praying, keep believing and keep trusting because His yoke is easy, His burden is light, and He’s leading you into your promised land!

so, today, be encouraged and never give up on your tomorrows. Accept good plan God has for you; a plan filled with Hope, Purpose, and blessing.

Broken

Here's to the kids who are being abused. Here's to the kids who are Depressed. Here's to the kids who over thinks. Here's to the kids who have been put down by their failures, mistakes, and regrets. Here's to us. This is for the Broken girl who has been out into a dark, cold world. You're not the worthless they made you feel, there is a Love they can never steal away, and you don't have to stay the broken girl.Why in the world would you want to break something that someone created? Don’t scar yourself because you feel unloved, or alone because you're never either of these things, He is always there, you just have to step out of the shadows and you are gonna be healed by love.you are going to be touched and be showered with the power of a love you have never experienced before. be amazed by how grace can put you back together again. Don't let regrets, failures and your mistakes ever bring you down, stay strong and call up to the lord, We may be tired, weary and emotionally distraught, but after spending time alone with God, we find that He injects into our bodies energy, power and strength. because God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 


* Note: you know, in most or maybe all of my posts I have always connected my topic to GOD. why? because he is the way, and the truth, and the life. you can post your comments or tweet me about some clarifications, i will be very willing to answer them, meanwhile here are the BEST SONGS about the topic ( these songs are actually my inspiration for this post) *

Healthy Lifestyle for Lazy People

A lot of us experienced being called 'fat' ; and that's what makes us starve ourselves just not to be 'fat'. but starving is not the answer. there is this process called Healthy Diet and Exercise. see the word healthy there? Me, Myself was very conscious of what I eat and end up sleeping with an empty stomach, and the next morning when I wake up, I eat a lot. which makes my 'starving' useless. but now, I'm trying to live a healthy lifestyle, I eat Healthy, balance my meal and workout. Here's to the kids with lazy butts!

• First step is find a FITSPIRATION. Fitspirtion is someone who inspires you to become Fit and Healthy; they are also the ones who push to work harder and stop being lazy. My Personal Fitspiration is Ariana Grande. She is my Fitspiration because when she started on her show Victorious she was a little chubby but she started to live a healthy lifestyle and exercise a little more.

• Pick a inspired Workout, it depends on you which part of the body  do you want, but its always better if it's for the whole body. this is my personal Pick.

• If you got a smartphone then congratulations! you can download Nike Training Club. This app is my all time favorite! it has four categories: Get Lean, Get Toned, Get Strong and Get Focused. For me, Get Focused is the best because there is a certain workout for certain part of the body. and it is only for 15 minutes!

• Now Turn the Music on and get started!

* Tips: it's better to do the Inspired workout before doing the NTC *

Now this is for the kids who want to have a healthy Diet:

This is Ariana's way which she has posted on Her Tumblr about Nourishing body and Soul: (it is pretty hard to read it on tumblr so I just copy pasted it) 

Here’s a really long blog about a bunch of things. My mind kinda wandered while I was writing it but I feel like the points in here are all kind of important so I’m sorry this is kinda disorganized and written oddly. 

"no matter how little calories i eat, i still dont lose weight "

I saw somebody say this on Tumblr and was inspired to share what I do for diet and exercise with you guys. I would love to influence my fans or anybody who is reading this to TAKE CARE of their bodies and stay fit the healthiest, most nourishing way possible. 

This past year I lost 11 pounds thanks to my friend Isaac (@Isaacboots on twitter). He taught me all about nutrition and weight loss and how to keep my body fit and healthy! Some of the things he was telling me made absolutely no sense to me at first but I just went along with it and I’m really happy with the results! I’m definitely NOT saying I’ve got the best body in the world and I’m certainly not a supermodel or anything remotely close!! But I feel healthy and good, inside and out. I’m one hundred percent comfortable in my skin and I think that’s something to celebrate. I want all of you reading this to be able to feel that way as well. I asked Isaac if I could pass on some of the knowledge that he taught me to you guys and he said yes, so I’m grateful that I get to share this with you all. :)

Before I talk about food and exercise, I want to explain why I chose to write this. I’m fairly new to Tumblr so I’m not really used to it yet but I always see these posts about girls being so depressed about their bodies and about their weight and about how their starving themselves and it just makes me so sad. I genuinely care about you guys and I don’t want to see any of you young girls out there beating yourselves up or feeling anything but beautiful!! So as somebody who used to be very hard on themselves and beat herself up all the time I want to help as much as I can. 

First thing I learned is, being skinny isn’t the most important thing in the world. Being happy is. Happiness comes from self love and learning to accept yourself no matter what. No matter how your body looks at the moment. Whether you’re wearing make up or not, whether you’re bloated or not. Whether your friend posted a god awful photo of you or not. None of that superficial bullshit matters. I’m telling you from experience the more you learn to love yourself the more beautiful you will look on the outside. I had this realization a little while ago when I went to work with zero make up on for rehearsal. At first I felt so insecure and scared of what people would think but I didn’t have time to do it so I just walked in and did it. I honestly felt so free. :) Since then I haven’t worn make up once unless I was filming or performing. Even my boyfriend prefers it now. My point is… We all have things we are insecure about. It’s NORMAL… but in the big picture those little quirks and things are what make you, you. If we wait until we become perfect before we love ourselves, we will waste our whole lives. You are already perfect right here and right now. 

I know what you’re going to say. "I can’t love myself, I hate myself, I hate my body" so on… I’m a 19 year old girl, I’m my worst critic I know. But next time before you beat yourself up or hate on yourself, remember that you are lucky enough to be living on this beautiful planet. Be grateful to be alive and healthy and young and able to reblog lol. 

Now with all that being said I’m now going to share with you all the knowledge I learned from Isaac because as much as your exterior isn’t what truly matters in life… Feeling good, proud, happy and confident about yourself and your body DOES matter. :) 

So what I learned from Isaac is… Eating fewer calories and counting calories has NOTHING to do with being your thinnest or losing weight. It’s WHAT you put into your body. I’m currently consuming more calories than I ever had before and I’m thinner than I’ve ever been. I’m never hungry. My belly is happy and satiated all day long. 

The main thing I stay away from is starchy carbs (no rice, potato, pasta, bread, cereal, etc.) and sweets (with a cheat day once a month because it’s good for your soul :D ). However it’s important to have some carbs (depending what they are) because they’re a great source of energy and certain carbs eliminate bloating. Like oatmeal. I have organic oatmeal with flax and cinnamon every morning to get my body going and to have some energy for the day. I usually eat it with 2 hard boiled eggs or a handful of almonds for protein. I generally have really long work days every day so throughout the day I keep myself energized and my belly full with fruits and veggies with almond butter or nuts, green tea and healthy bars like Think Thins, Live Raw bars or Pure bars. Yes these bars have more calories than a 90 calorie Special K bar but here’s why they’re the smarter choice… The ingredients in a Special K bar aren’t natural and are harder for your body to break down. If you eat snacks that are more natural (Think Thins, Live Raw bars or Pure bars, fruits, veggies, nuts etc) you’ll consume way more calories but your body will be able to process and USE the ingredients for nourishment instead of storing them as fat. For lunch I always have some lean protein with a fruit or veggie like salmon and kale or chicken with hummus and some berries. For dinner I have whichever of the two I didn’t eat for lunch. I usually alternate! I try to have my last meal of the day before 7:30. If I get hungry before bed I will never let myself go to sleep hungry. I’ll just have some fruit or nuts. A glass of dandelion tea before bed is also great for you. A lot of people also say that fruit isn’t good for you because it has a lot of sugar and that avocado or hummus or cashews have too much fat. This is true… fruit has some sugar and some carbs. Nuts and avocado and hummus DO have a lot of fat but they aren’t the kinds of fats that will make you fat. They’re healthy fats. They will nourish your body. The sugar in fruit is natural sugar and it’s fine and good and delicious. Of course moderation is good when it comes to natural fats and sugar but I’m just telling you guys about what’s been working for me.

      The greatest thing about this way of eating is that you get to eat every 2-4 hours. The reason why it works is because it keeps your body burning all day long. Eating more actually makes your metabolism work faster and harder. So you’ll be eating more than ever but you’ll be eating the right things and when you’re eating the right things and exercising, your body will be healthy and in great shape!

I try to exercise daily to get my heart rate up and keep my body going. Isaac teaches a class called Fat Assassins (lol I love the title) and it’s literally the hardest, most amazing class in the whole world. I try to do it every day. He’s releasing a DVD of the class soon so I will let you know when it’s out! Feel amazing whenever I do it. Whether it’s dancing, yoga, swimming, hiking, jumping jacks, plans, ab and leg work outs, running, cheesy exercise videos.. whatever you want to do it’s just important to have that time to work out as often as possible. 

So I hope this has been helpful to you guys and that you’ve enjoyed reading it. The most important thing of all is to keep yourself healthy and to be happy and to love yourself. I don’t want to see y’all hating on yourselves anymore.  Nourish your body and nourish your soul. Be happy in your beautiful, unique skin and take care of yourselves. All my love! 

So, that was it! that was a long post featuring ariana grande (@arianagrande). I hope we helped you! Please let me know what you think about my blog on twitter! Much love! 

How to identify a true friend | So Called Friends

in my previous post i was talking about the Difference of True Friends and Best Friends. sometimes you feel like everyone you loved , left you. I’m not talking about people who have passed either, I’m talking about people who used to be in your life and have just made a choice to leave you. Even worse, the ones who pretend they still care but don’t make any kind effort and friendships have become notoriously one sided. It seems everyone has left you. People you never dreamed would leave or change. sometimes, you are so attached to someone but little did you know, they don't even treat you like someone.So-called friends are hard to spot because they can be nice as pie to you lots of the time, and when they aren’t, they make excuses.  let me differentiate the So called friends (lets name them S.O. F's ) and true friends to open up your eyes.

• You tell your S.O.F all of your secrets because you trust them but you feel that they always hide something from you. but for true friends, you can always have real talk with them and they will never going to spill or gossip about it.
• When you're honest about your S.O.F's behaviour they refuse to talk to you. 
• S.O.F's don’t really treat you as your friends but they don’t want you to be friends with anyone else.
• S.O.F's talk about places/ parties they are going to in front of me and DO NOT offer an invitation. but true friends wont go, unless, you'll go.
• S.O.F's go to you when they need something or fought over something and to gossip. true friends, don't exaggerate things and won't let you in a fight.
• S.O.F's wont tell you if there is something stuck in your teeth, but true friends immediately tells you if there is, or you can even ask them!
• S.O.F's act superior in everything. 
• S.O.F's take advantage of your kindness and makes you their pet. 
• S.O.F's might tease you and then make out it’s your problem if you get upset because you haven’t got a sense of humour. 
• S.O.F's always controls you, the way you speak, the way you act and say its for your own good.
• S.O.F's make fun of you in public, but true friends protect you and makes you feel safe and supported.

well, these were just few examples of how different True friends and S.O.F's are.  Now here are some tips for some deep S.O.F's issues:

• if your S.O.F is hurting you, stand up for yourself, don't let them take advantage of you!
• Talk to your S.O.F privately. i know it's a hard thing to do, and you really need the guts to do it, but you will thank yourself after. and remember to keep it cool.
• Make yourself heard. as i said, don't let your S.O.F take advantage of you. you also need and worth the respect.
• End the friendship if you must. 
• remember, true friends will never let you down.
• if they care about you, they will understand you.

i hope this tips helped and are useful. always remind yourself that you are worthy of all the love and all the respect in the world.