serious issues: Depression and How to Deal with it

You're too tired, but you cant sleep. Freak. Ugly. Fat. worthless. useless. attention-whore.  these words repeat in your head over and over again as the tears comes down your face. You lay down in your bed, where in a place that its all comfortable and safe. but why aren't you feeling safe? You're trapped. Depression is a trap. you fall into it and you need people to help you up; but if you stay strong and be strong, you could find a way to get up. try and try and never give up; and the next thing you know you're feeling okay. everyone is too busy helping themselves, help yourself! be your own hero. it's really hard i know. You hear the same words every time. stay strong. you're beautiful. I love you. and bunch of sweet things. it doesn't work at all. why? because you're building walls and letting no one in. you want to feel loved but how can you feel loved when you are too stubborn to believe the truths people are telling you. sure, maybe someone has hurt you before. but dont let that person represent everyone that's trying to help you.

• Don't tell God you have a problem, tell the problem that you have a great God.
• You know what is incredible? you get to talk with the creator of the universe and have a relationship with him. we can pray and he will listen. he is always there. he's just waiting for you to seek him.
• The only way that you can get out of darkness ( problems)  is to follow the light (God). 
• Don't have a heart like stone. still learn to love and you will be loved.
• There's no such thing as perfection and life is not a race. 
• Stop crying over something that's not going to matter after a year or two. try not to let it get to you, you're gonna be alright. 

• If you start believing in yourself and believe that you are worthy, nothing else will matter to you anymore. you'll be happier with yourself, and when some says crap about you, it wouldnt hurt you anymore because you know that aint true
• write your feelings down, maybe in a notebook; but never ever post them on social media sites, it could make it worse.
• Smile. just smile!

• watch funny vines, videos or gif and stop thinking for a while.

• read books. 
• eat and never feel guilty. 
• workout! it will make you feel better. 
• laugh so hard until you snore. 
• Set a goal and promise yourself to be a happier person.
• start surrounding yourself with positive energy.
• Stop complaining about your life; appreciate the little things and be thankful that you are still alive. 
• if you are worthless, God would have never made you; and if he hated you, he would've stopped your life but he didn't. there is a reason that you are still alive.
• Consult a friend. A person you are not afraid of. Someone who makes your life better with their advice. someone who has been  there from the start, not only when your life start being chaotic. always have him/her in your life; don't close your doors on that person. Don't keep a secret from him/her, id you are, you are living a  double life.
• People can and will help you, you just need to search them out. 
• sometimes, you just have to let things go and forget it, no matter how heavy they are.
• You won't and can't be sad forever.
• God will always finish what He started. No matter how dark it looks, no matter how long it’s been, no matter how many people are trying to knock you down; just stay in faith. God will never put you down. You will see your day of breakthrough because God will complete what He started. Just try to trust him, nothing can go wrong.

to you who is reading this, I pray that this somehow changed your mind and changed the way you see life.  I pray that you will stay strong and think positive thoughts. I pray that you realize how important you are. I pray that you won't be one of the people that puts herself down, youre the only one you've got. Let's be friends, m'kay? Lets be mega best friends. Lets talk about the serious issues down to the stupidest and random things. Lets fangirl. Lets send fancy emails to each other. Lets be happy and fall in love with being alive x

                                                                

Tips on How to be Happy with yourself

• Comparing yourself to others is a trap. there are always people who are smarter, richer, talented, and more popular than you. stop comparing yourself because you can never be them, and being like them is totally boring. You are unique so stop trying to be a carbon copy of others. start being the best you can be.

• Acceptance. Accept who you are, respect yourself enough to know that you deserve the very best. you dont deserve the hate and the pressure you give to yourself.

• Be your own best friend. take care of yourself. love yourself and people will love you. be kind to yourself and others will be kind to you. if you treat yourself badly, people will start treating you badly too. 

• Dont seek for love. Telling people that you are sad and depressed and expecting them to love you, doesnt make you lovable. yes, people will love you and care about you, but just because they sympathize you. it will just make you sound desperate.

• Love yourself. loving yourself is the greatest love of all. Give and gain love.

• Build up your self esteem and improve your self image.

• Forgive others. 

• Smile and make other people smile.

• Promise yourself that each day, you will make the best out of everything. its like a little guide and reminder to keep you happy.

• Slow down. Dont rush, dont stress. 

• Dont judge other people and dont find the wrong with people. remember, the way you treat and think of people are just the reflection of how we think of ourselves. 

• “Being yourself is all it takes. If you want to impress someone don’t be someone else just be yourself" - Selena Gomez
• Appreciate the little things. Stop wanting things what you don't have and be contented for what you have. stop taking things for granted because there is someone out there who badly needs the things you are taking for granted.
• Surround yourself with happy people and people who make you happy. you are who you surround yourself with.
• Push yourself. if people tell you negative things, use them as an inspiration and prove to them that you are so much better than what they think.

How to Love yourself

I remember when I was a high school freshman, the first time i was embarrassed about my body; I remember doing the best that i could just not to look like a freak, putting on some lipstick so i would not look like a vampire, just for all the ruthless boys who don't even think before they speak and I would go home, wear over-sized shirt not bothering myself to look down, and making myself to believe all the " you are beautiful" sayings on tumblr. lies lies lies I tell myself as I jump in my bed, my flat chest meeting my knees with my arms wrapped around them, wishing and praying that someday I will be good enough, but i can't and will never be good enough for a society whose definition of a girl is skinny, bones, fair skin, big boobs, skinny, skinny, skinny. Fall in love with yourself first. all these time I wanted and needed someone to love me was here all along. it was ME. silly me, trying to dress to impress while there was no joy deep inside. I just realized that no lipstick, nearly naked powders, smooth hair and all the bullshit thats in the criteria of beauty is  NOT what defines you. its all the little simple things you have thats worth much more than a skinny body and thigh gaps. The way you wipe your hair out of your face. the way you try to look serious in a situation. the way you laugh. the way you joke around your friends and trying to be goofy. the way you say Hi to kids and give them a smile. thats what makes you, YOU. you should start realizing that you are not living for others, you are living for yourself so stop trying to seek approval and love from the society cause we live it a world that the people are unfair, not the life that we have. so start loving yourself cause you are Diamond, believe it or not. because the only one you've got is yourself and GOD.

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How To Move On

You see them for the first time, and never in your wildest dreams you thought they'd be the one who will break your heart into pieces. When they break your heart, it’s the hardest thing you could ever go through; and no matter how much time has passed ,as the days turns to week, weeks to months and months into years, it never really goes away. You may think youre getting better, when theyre not around you, when you stop thinking about them, but when you see them or a single memory of them comes back in your kaleidoscope of memories, it hits you all over again, all at once, like a punch in the stomach. You fall apart, for the hundredth time, and you feel like you just want to run away, somewhere far away, but you cant; even if you run and run, the memory is chasing you, too; so you just decide to jump in your bed, hold your pillow tight and start crying, crying, crying.  You love this person with all of your heart, even though you know you shouldn’t. but yet, you still want them, and only them. They hurt you worse than you’ve ever been hurt. They stole your happiness, they took the biggest part of you, without you knowing. But yet, you still want them, only them. Other people come and gave you chances to move on, you want to follow them and move on but there is a part of you that still wants to hold on. At the end of the day, youre still thinking about the person who has left you completely broken. You don’t want to miss them anymore. You don’t want to love them anymore, but you know you always will. You try so hard to get better and forget it all, and hope that one day you wake up and youre over them.

You can't move on unless you want to. you can't move on if they are still around you. You can't move on if youre still re-reading your text conversations. You cant move on if youre still stalking them in social media sites. You can't move on if youre forcing yourself, the more you force yourself, the more your feelings would rebel. give it time. time heals wounds. Don't rush. its all about the baby steps. Delete their number. try to avoid the places that you can find them. you've got same class as them? its cool. Don't pay too much attention on them. try to stop yourself from daydreaming or glancing at them. if they approach you, its fine. try to be friends, but remember that youre moving on and dont want them as the holder of your heart. but if they are not around the places that  you are, congratulations! youre one step closer to moving on! haha! try these steps:

• Get a paper and a pen and write all the negative things about that person
• write all the reasons why you should move on.
• talk to a friend
• spend more time with your family and friends
• get rid of all the songs and pictures that reminds you of them.
• put the past behind you before you can move on.
• dont forget that youre a human. its okay to have a melt down. just dont unpack and live there.cry it out and then refocus on where youre headed.
• just remember that the way you think about a person isnt the way they actually are.
• if they dont chase you while you walk away, keep walking.

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this is another post based on my experiences. its really hard. harder than i have ever imagined. if you can relate to this post, i hope one day you will move on and say " here I stay, no looking back"

What Girls should know about guys

1.) guys might be annoying sometimes but all they want is your attention.
2.) they still look at the beauty inside. Personality is the key!
3.) Guys like girls who are straight to the point. you may hint guys that you want but trust me, their brain is slower than internet explorer! just go straight to the point to avoid any misunderstandings.
4.) Don't ever say "Guys are freaking the same. all they do is break my heart and just leave! what a douche bag. you are a douche bag. I don't even know you but i know that you are just like the douche i dated before" NO! don't ever say that. they are not all douche bags or somethin' like that. Don't let a douche bag represent all of them.
5.) do you know any shy guy? well, honey, these guys are easiest to talk to! i know it sounds crazy but trust me!  if you like just ask them a question, they'll open up like a book! lol.
6.) Before a guy calls you, they plan up everything they are gonna say. they have this kind of a script in their mind but when they call you they just mess up!
7.) okay, here's the obvious, if he teases you; he probably likes you. if he pokes you, just don't get mad at him. he is just trying to have fun.
8.) Us girls, notice this thing about boys a lot; boys just zone out and make their own little world. it's pretty weird, and when you ask them, they don't even know what to answer.
9.) Guys cry too. even though how tough they look they are still humans, and have emotions. sometimes, they just want to break down and cry like girls. you know what? We all have our own problems, and sometimes crying is the best way of letting all the pain out.
10.) Guys have insecurities too. They also get insecure of their friends that are good looking. sometimes, they say, the world would be so much fair, if guys looked all the same.
11.) Not all guys are pervs. sometimes they think the girls judge a guy by their looks. if a guy is good looking, girls would say he is not a perv but if a average guy would just touch them they would go like "ew, don't touch me you perv!" Guys also wants to be treated equally.
12.) If you don't know how to start a conversation with a guy, gossip, guys likes to gossip! but not too much, honey! its bad for your health! its all for good fun! i mean, gossip is such a weird word, but yes, they talk about people!
13.)Guys likes girls that they can laugh with or laugh at. they find funny girls attractive; but don't try to be funny. just be quirky and have fun! be yourself.
14.) Guys loooooooove food! they are also attracted to girls who picks pizza or hamburgers over healthy stuffs, it much cooler.
15.) Guys don't mind if you don't dress up everyday. it's pretty much okay with them to just wear your sweat pants. but dont be also too much dressy because it might end up unwell.
16.) Sometimes, guys feel depressed too. they sometimes feel that they don't belong here because they think that girls can do so much better and the world would be a better place without them; so if you have a guy friend please be kind to him and do your best to be open to him and cheer him up; and maybe answer some of his "things that i dont get about girls" questions!
17.) one thing that guys dont get about girls, is that it takes them forever to make a decision. like for example if a guy asks a girl if black or red, the girls just freaks out and doesnt know what to answer.
18.) Guys don't really like girls that wears too much make-up; sometimes it makes it even worse. honey, your face is not a canvas, you can't just paint on it.
19.) Guys dont like if a girl start to get emotional and talks about her feelings. guys don't really like drama, so if you have problems, count on your girlfriends.
20.) it annoys guys if a girl calls herself "ugly" or "fat" just to get attention, or just in general. remember, no girl is ugly, you are all beautiful in your own ways. accept it! you are not fat and ugly!
21.) its really unfair for guys when girls use the "im a girl" card. for example, when a girl need help, they always ask a guy to help them but if the guy wont help her she'll be all "excuse me? im a girl and you are supposed to help me! what a gentleman!"
22.) guys don't get it when girls switch from one mood to another. its sick! for example:

Girl: wow, what a beautiful day!

to

Girl: Don't talk to me or I'll kill you!

to

Girl: oh my gosh. *sobs* I hate the world. I dont wanna live anymore.

Here are also somethings that you shouldn't say to a guy:

1.) "its nothing. I'm fine" JUST NO. can't you see he is trying to make an effort here? he is asking you because he wants to know.

2.) "Does this makes me look fat?" look at number 20

3.) "Here, Just let me do it." read number 16 :)

4.) "Naaaaaw, you are so sweet, how come you dont have a girlfriend?" dude, he might be just waiting for you. DATE HIM.

5.) "Your future girlfriend would be so lucky" he will feel like he has just been punched in him stomach.

6.) "Does this outfit shows too much skin?" uhm. awkward.

7.) "You're like a brother to me" then his feeling for you would be illegal.

8.) "So, what are you thinking?" this is a very dangerous question to ask. just dont!

9.) "uhm, you don't really have to do this" uhm HELLO? he is trying to be kind here.

10.) "My ex used to do that too" you know what i mean. 

i know, i know, i'm a girl too and i might be exaggerating some stuffs, but admit it, guys have a point too. Us girls, are sometimes too dramatic. oops! just try to take this post as a help and work on this things.

♡ Way to a better Relationship ♡

" I'm just waiting for someone to come along and make me happy"

You are depressed, lonely and feel something is missing in your life. You feel like your life is a complete mess and come to think that "If I can just find someone to love me no matter what, I'll be happy. but I dont think he exists." WRONG!

when your life is a mess, happy and stable people tend to avoid you. They look for those who are basically happy and stable. While You are miserable and depressed, you'll only attract people who have big problems. Then both of you will have twice the misery. remember, you are who you surround yourself with, if people who you surround yourself yourself with are happy, you too are happy.

The same applies to waiting for lovers. We have to sort ourselves out first. If I say to you, "Love me enough, and I'm sure I'll stop trying to kill myself." that's bound to put a strain on the relationship.

Other people can help to make us happier, but we need to be able to control our life first. When we wait fir people to arrive and fix everything, is like we're waiting for disappointment. WHY? because, if they dont arrive, we'll get more depressed; but, if they do arrive but don't behave as we want to, then we'll still get depressed. then we come at them and say "YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO MAKE ME HAPPY!"

in some songs and movies, people say " I was a nobody 'till i met you" but in real life, that is very unhealthy. you have to be a SOMEBODY first. It's no good being somebody's other half when YOU ARE A WHOLE PERSON.

Moral of the story: 

We must remind ourselves that we are a whole person. we must recognize our own value. If we depend on others to do it - and if they dont- we get totally disappointed. If you're lonely and depressed, finding for someone to love you wont help. Find someone whom you can GIVE friendship without expectations. Love yourself to for others to love, respect and take care of yourself enough and people will do the same to you.

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if you have any questions, reactions (even violent ones. lol ) or if you just want someone to talk to please feel free to comment on the comment section below. or tweet me at https://twitter.com/HisLoveIsPure and lets be friends! I Love You to the moon and back, even if I dont know you, I still care. and Let me remind you that you may not have everything but the creator of all things loves you endlessly and is so proud of you. You're beautiful, don't ever waste your time because you will never be young as you are now. be a blessing in someone's life. :) xx

Serious Issues: Fake Friends

                     

"You are a little lost, with a million questions running through your head, a fork in the path, which do you take? You stop and turn around, taking a few steps backwards and ask for directions. They're there sitting in front of you, beautiful smile upon their lips, the kind that draws you in, you see kindness in their eyes, and sit down next to them, asking the way. First, you must explain why you are lost, and what led you down the wrong path, the story spilling from your lips like drops of rain, as they sympathetically nod their heads, that smile never leaving their face. They are such a good listener you say to yourself, your trust in them growing as you continue to spout out your life story, until they know every sordid detail, before offering their “sage” advice. 
You listen intently, before parting ways, taking the path they pointed out that led through the trees. Slowly the deeper you crawl, the trees begin to point and snicker, the birds whispering your name…. yet you continue on…. As you move the whispers become fragmented sentences of the story you told that kindly face a mile back, only twisted, warped, and deluded to sound far worse then it was meant to be. 
Stopping dead in your tracks you realize you put your trust in the wrong person, expected them to keep your secrets because you would have done the same for them, just to find you were led blindly, and now live with the dawning realization you were nothing but a joke to them, a story to spread around, another rumor, but little do they know the jokes on them, the moment they lost your trust, but your friendship, and the loss is nothing more than their own.”

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We all meet that person that we think they are the one; they are the one that we will spend our lifetime with; share our tears and laughter and give advice to each other, and call them our Best Friends. but do they really treat you, the way you treat them? just let me remind you that, Not everybody is your friend. Just because they hang out with you and laugh with you doesn’t mean they’re there for you. Just because they say they’ve got your back doesn’t mean they won’t eventually stab you in it. People pretend well. Jealousy sometimes doesn’t live far, so know your circle. At the end of the day, real situations can expose fake people, so pay attention.

You might not notice that, as time passes by,the person who you used to trust your secrets with is the one who is spreading it to the whole world, the one who is talking nonsense crap behind your back. but just to tell you darling, it's normal. Don't ever cry or react right away. Take time to think, inhale, exhale. don't you ever think about revenge!Remember, Happiness is the best revenge. Be Happy. Avoid them as possible but you might wanna smile at them just to piss them off. *winks* Sometimes, friends are just like drugs, when you are with them, you get happy and forget some of your problems, but when you start to get really close to them and be with them all the time, everything starts to change, without you noticing it; everything starts to collapse, your attitude, the way you treat your loved ones, especially your parents. Choose the right friends.  Yes, not all drugs are bad, but once you overdose it, that's a another story.  .






I believe you could assume that we all do it. We all talk behind someone’s back at one point or another. Talking behind someone’s back is the start of gossip, rumors, fights, anger, insecurity, self-consciousness, and much more. Sometimes there is a brave soul who stands up for the victim. Defends them for they most likely know the person better. Most of the time, however, we all just sit, listen, and even sometimes throw in little comments ourself. Humanity is cruel. Society is a ruin. We need more brave souls to give justice to those who do not know they are a victim. When engaged in a conversation that turns into gossip behind one’s back, take a stand. Defend that individual. They will forever be grateful.
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Bible Verses to give you strength: 

Psalms 41: 4-12

As for me, I said, “O Lord, be gracious to me;heal me, for I have sinned against you!”

My enemies say of me in malice “When will he die, and his name perish?”

And when one comes to see me, he utters empty words,while his heart gathers iniquity;

when he goes out, he tells it abroad. All who hate me whisper together about me;

they imagine the worst for me. They say, “A deadly thing is poured out on him;

he will not rise again from where he lies.”  Even my close friend in whom I trusted,

who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.  But you, O Lord, be gracious to me,

and raise me up, that I may repay them! By this I know that you delight in me:

my enemy will not shout in triumph over me. But you have upheld me because of my integrity, and set me in your presence forever.

1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Proverbs 13:20

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

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Inspiring quotes :

If you have three people in your life that you can trust, you can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world.-Selena Gomez 

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some songs too: