Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. As humorous as this might seem, it's a basic summation of the truth. Yet, you can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first.
Find yourself and define yourself on your terms. You have to know first what you want in life.Try to think about what kinds of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them so that you do not let such tests define you. Instead, ensure that the defining you do is based on your own terms and is something you feel absolutely comfortable with. You may feel self-conscious, but over time if you are around the right type of people for you, they will accept you for who you are. And love and start to look at the real you..
Avoid bringing back the past. Don't bring back the embarrassing moments you did before.forget about the past, that will just stop you from growing. Allow yourself this space to grow, to improve, to become wiser. And allow yourself to forgive past errors and past behaviors you're not so proud of. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past. You had your reasons for them and the decision made sense at the time, so instead of harnessing yourself to past mistakes, allow yourself to learn their lessons and continue to grow.
Stop caring about what others think of you. I know it sounds impossible, but how can we be ourselves when we keep thinking about what other people think? If you want someone to love you, you have to let them see the true you, not the one that you are trying to be. and if you care about what they say, you will just get hurt.
Be Honest and open. We have nothing to hide. We must admit that we are all Imperfect, growing and learning human beings. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated. Give yourself some ME time. Give yourself sometime to relax. Be responsible for yourself and for boosting your self-esteem. If others aren't telling you you're great, don't let it get to you. Instead, tell yourself you're special, wonderful, and worthwhile. When you believe these things about yourself, others will recognize that glow of self-confidence and begin confirming your self-affirmations in no time!
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS. If you're always striving to be someone you're not already, you'll never be a happy person. This comes about through comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting in certain ways. By comparing yourself to others, you give their image-portrayal way too much power and reduce your own worth based on a mirage. It's a useless activity that only brings harm. Instead, value the person you are, love your personality, and embrace your flaws; we all have them, and as explained earlier, being honest is better than running from them.
I’ve made so many right and wrong decisions in the past year and I think to myself that if I could I would go back and change what happened or stop something from happening, but really I wouldn’t. If it weren’t for those wrong decisions, those right decisions,I wouldn’t be where I am now, I wouldn’t love the people I love now, I wouldn’t know what I know now. I would be someone completely different. And maybe sometimes I wish I was, but if I was someone different the people who love me for me, for who I am, through everything wouldn’t be here, and I don’t know what I would do without them. So don’t regret any of your decisions because they are what form you into the beautiful amazing person you are now.
Have you ever felt that, something is not right? like, something is not the way it was before? Everything has changed? miss the memories you had with someone, but knowing that you can never have them back? Well, Every teenager goes through that, and I believe there is always a reason behind everything, and might just not figured it out yet. Remember, some people come into your life as blessings and some come as Lessons. remember my post about the difference about true friends and best friends ? Well, me and So called "Best friend SLASH Brother" have never talked since then. its been a year now, we see each other everyday, but look at each other like strangers. see? People Change.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.
"The lesson I've learned the most often in life is that you're always going to know more in the future than you know now."
“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…unless you fail to make the turn.” ~Unknown Let's face it, we all had something we regret from the past. That's okay, because we are humans with emotions. As we live life to the fullest, we make fast decisions, and cling onto what once was. but when we cling to our past, it affects our future, and it brings us down. if you’ve experienced a breakup, a tragic death, or a streak of bad luck, certain people, places, and things probably anchor you to the past. These tips may help you let go and move forward:
If you really want to work on how to get over a situation, give yourself enough time and space to deal with the situation.
Don't lie in bed feeling miserable. Get up, go about your daily life. It will help you get your mind off the situation.
Forgiveness is key to moving on from your past. It doesn't mean you'll forget. But if you don't forgive, you'll never move on.
If you went through a bad break-up, Consider all the possible reasons why the relationship has ended, and you'll have more acceptable understanding.
Don't pretend that you are strong. It's just fine to cry as much as you want. This will make you feel better in the long run.
Find any old shoe box and stuff it with memories you may have of whatever’s holding you down. For me, it was a few letters and pictures. Shut the box and hide it until you’re ready to revisit it again with a different mindset. The key is to not allow yourself to hide it forever, but to get yourself to a place where you can achieve acceptance.
Take a pen and jot (or even doodle) down everything you’ve ever wanted to say to your anchor-person (or if it’s situational, personify the memory).
Paper is tougher than you think, so don’t hold anything back. Now comes the hardest part: dispose of your letter. Bury it, shred it, or even burn it. I thought this was stupid advice until I actually tried it. It felt wonderful.
“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss
be there for those who are there for you. This is a great step in building new and meaningful relationships to help focus on the present. Perhaps they’re anchored down, too. You can help each other. This is why reciprocated relationships are the only ones that truly work.
Be grateful for where you're and what you’ve learned. Change your attitude and you'll change your life.
Listen to happy music. Turn off the sad songs. Find something you can dance to.
Smile like you've never cried, fight like you've never lost, love like you've never been hurt, and live like you'll die tomorrow.
“Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.”
You can love someone so much. Give them your all. Everything you can possibly give to see them happy and smile without losing yourself. You can love someone so much, but still loving yourself enough to know when to leave. It’s okay to embrace your feelings of love, and sadness, that’s what makes us human. Sometimes when you’ve loved someone so much and they don’t see it, the best way to show them is to leave. That’s okay.
It doesn’t make sense to stay with someone if all of you isn’t there. If you two aren’t vibrating on the same frequency, somethings off, there’s no chemistry then leave. You can’t force something to be there that isn’t. You can’t make someone understand. Maybe, they’re just a few steps behind you and got some catching up to do. If that person doesn’t love you enough to make minor changes, or to do whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. Find someone that does. Find that person that is on your level. If you feel as though you can’t be yourself, or that you are locked in a cage..set your spirit free. Never ever settle. Know your worth.
On my previous post, I was talking about Crushes. They are the one who inspire you, but also gives you a broken heart. remember when i wrote that you have to watch the movie "Flipped" ? Well, Here is the summary, and I'm sure you will get interested because we all can relate to this. ENJOY! ♡
Julianna "Juli" Baker meets Bryce Loski two days before the beginning of second grade; it's something about those blue eyes that attract her. Juli knows it's love, while Bryce, like any seven-year-old boy, doesn't. Juli stalks Bryce all through his childhood; staring at his house, asking him to play, following him at school, etc. Every day, Bryce watches Juli climb the sycamore tree at the bus stop, which Juli is very attached to. Ever since Juli retrieved a kite at the uppermost branches, she has loved the view. She constantly asks Bryce to come join her in the tree, as well as yelling out how many blocks away the bus is. Bryce, being unbelievably shy and annoyed by all the attention, asks out Juli's nemesis, Shelly Stalls, to get rid of his admirer. Bryce looks over his shoulder for Juli every time he's with Shelly, which of course causes Juli to think he's being forced to date her. This provokes a catfight between Juli and Shelly over Bryce. The two break up, and Bryce is back to square one. There comes an incident in sixth grade when, much to Bryce's chagrin and irritation, Juli constantly sniffs Bryce's hair in spelling from her assigned position behind him. According to Juli, his hair smells like watermelon and he has blond earlobe fuzz, even though he has really dark hair. Bryce is disgruntled from this seat change, because Juli had initially sat next to him where she whispered him answers. Now that she's behind him, he's lost that advantage, and his grades slip, especially in spelling. This halts, however, when as Juli sniffs him, she begins to whisper answers in his ear. Bryce, torn between feeling grateful and awkwardly guilty for hating her so much when she's helping him, follows the answers anyway until the end of the year.
Juli, on the other hand, can't stop thinking about Bryce in the many years she's known him. Obliviously missing his discomfort being around her, she continues to try to get him to like her. However, Juli's motives change when her beloved sycamore tree is cut down. Although Juli stays up in the branches for hours and misses school to protest its excision, she is brought down and isn't the same for weeks. Unbeknownst to Juli, Bryce feels horribly about Juli's tree, considering Juli asked Bryce to come up to protest with her and he declined. He frets over whether he could have made a difference, and contemplates many times apologizing to Juli but chickens out each time. Matters aren't helped when Bryce's wise but stubborn grandfather takes a fond liking to Juli and pesters Bryce to be friends with her—he doesn't seem to understand Bryce's annoyance with the girl. Juli's spirits are lightened when her father, who she admires more than anyone, paints her a picture of her sycamore tree. Juli often sits out with her dad on the porch for hours, listening to him talk and watching him paint. Juli hangs the picture in her room so she'll always be reminded of what the tree represented for her.
Things with Juli start to change when Juli gives Bryce and his family a batch of chicken eggs. Bryce's mother immediately expresses concern that the eggs might be fertilized, so Bryce and his best friend, Garrett, sneak over to her house and try to spy on the chickens in her backyard in search of a rooster (The chickens are a result of Juli's winning science fair project, which Bryce is a bit bitter about but means a lot to Juli.) Confused about the differences between chickens, hens, and roosters, they head home without answers. Bryce's family, however, has a new concern—salmonella. Juli's yard has always been very messy, and the family is concerned about poisoning in the eggs. Bryce's father tells him to just say no to Juli about the eggs, but Bryce ends up just throwing the eggs away before his parents come down for breakfast. This goes on for two years, but ends when Juli catches Bryce throwing the eggs into the trash can and tells him she's lost over a hundred dollars giving him the eggs when she's been selling them to her neighbors. She runs home, leaving Bryce feeling miserable.
Things take a dive for the worse in eighth grade when Juli overhears Bryce talking to Garrett about her mentally challenged uncle. Garrett makes a joke about Juli being mentally injured as well. Bryce wants to punch him, (To be exact "slug him") but doesn't want to lose his friend, so he pretends to laugh. Juli, furious and hurt, decides to abandon every thought of Bryce, even though Bryce's grandpa is very good friends with Juli and helps her tame her yard. The flip comes here: the more angry Juli is and the more she ignores him, the more Bryce notices and likes Juli, especially after he finds an old article about Juli's protest for her tree from elementary school. Bryce begins to see that Juli is smart, spirited, and "iridescent", as Grandpa Chet calls her. And for once, Bryce can't get Juli out of his head, and Juli hates Bryce the way Bryce hated her.
The climax comes at the eighth grade basket boys' luncheon, an auction in which boys are sold off to win money for charity. Shy Bryce hates this event but has no choice in the matter. Bryce, being incredibly cute, gets auctioned off to Shelly and Miranda, the prettiest girls in his school, and Juli buys Jon out of pity, a boy who didn't get many offers. While on their lunch date, Bryce finds he can't focus on Shelly and Miranda: he just wants to talk to Juli. He gets his chance when Shelly and Miranda get into a huge food fight over him. While they're fighting, Bryce sneaks over to Juli's table, pulls her away from her date, and asks if she likes Jon. She answers that no, she doesn't, but is clearly still annoyed at Bryce and wants nothing to do with him. Bryce, in his relief, takes her hands, leans in, and tries to kiss her, but she yanks back and runs away. Unfortunately for Bryce, this act is witnessed in front of his entire class, so he is dogged the rest of the day by taunts, especially by his friend Garrett. It is implied that Bryce drops Garrett as a friend in favor of Juli by the end.
Juli manages to get home without Bryce seeing her, but Bryce is determined now. He calls, knocks on her door, and eventually climbs her window. Juli ignores him by sitting in the living room, until she looks out the window and sees Bryce's last attempt at winning her heart: he plants a sycamore tree in her front yard. Juli now realizes Bryce has changed and waves back at him from her living room window.
It was so beautiful and simple. It was about an innocent middle school crush, no big drama or sad turnout in the end, just innocent unfiltered unedited start of a new love, true love. Movies like this, stories like this give me faith and hope that that word ‘LOVE’ just might actually have a real meaning that isn’t changed as each generation changes.
As Teenagers, we go through a lot of situations. We lose a friend, get our heart broken, get low scores in school, get bullied, or even go through family problems. that's all normal, it is very impossible that no one will go through that. some are just good at faking smiles. Remember, If there is no struggle, there is no strength, and if there is no strength, there is no progress. now, let me share this story with you guys; So Yesterday, at school, we were grouped into two, boys and girls. until this time, I never knew that my classmates had problems, I thought they had a perfect life, because they are one of the cheerful and the happiest people I have ever known.
Now let me get to the main part of the story, so, We had this new classmate, lets name her bella, She is Sweet, friendly, smart and Mature. but she had a very complicated and sad family problem. Her Parents broke up since she was a baby, and her father never did his responsibility as a father, never gave her money, love and care; She stood Strong anyway. She grew up and was so excited to finish elementary so she could move away from that lonely place, and start a new life with her mom and sister. She was crying while she was telling the story, which made me tear up too. but what made me wonder is why she is still smiling. She said she still love her father, and if ever her father will come back, she will welcome him with all her heart. isn't that sweet and very mature for a 14 year old? and you know what she told me? " I wonder why people suicide? Why would they waste their life? Life is a gift, why would you waste it? "
Moral of the story:
Even though how bad is the situation that you are going through, stay strong.
Don't waste your life stressing about your problems. there is always a happy ending for everything.
There is something beautiful about all scars, whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with.
Sometimes, we must get hurt in order to grow.
It's gonna get harder before it gets easier. but it will get better, you just gotta make it through the hard situations first.
YOU HAVE COME FROM GOD, YOU ARE A SPARK OF HIS GLORY. YOU WILL GET PEACE ONLY WHEN YOU AGAIN MERGE IN HIM.
