Moving On

“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…unless you fail to make the turn.” ~Unknown
Let's face it, we all had something we regret from the past. That's okay, because we are humans with emotions. As we live life to the fullest, we make fast decisions, and cling onto what once was.
but when we cling to our past, it affects our future, and it brings us down. 
if you’ve experienced a breakup, a tragic death, or a streak of bad luck, certain people, places, and things probably anchor you to the past. These tips may help you let go and move forward:

• If you really want to work on how to get over a situation, give yourself enough time and space to deal with the situation.

• Don't lie in bed feeling miserable. Get up, go about your daily life. It will help you get your mind off the situation.

• Forgiveness is key to moving on from your past. It doesn't mean you'll forget. But if you don't forgive, you'll never move on.

• If you went through a bad break-up, Consider all the possible reasons why the relationship has ended, and you'll have more acceptable understanding.

• Don't pretend that you are strong. It's just fine to cry as much as you want. This will make you feel better in the long run.

• Find any old shoe box and stuff it with memories you may have of whatever’s holding you down. For me, it was a few letters and pictures. Shut the box and hide it until you’re ready to revisit it again with a different mindset. The key is to not allow yourself to hide it forever, but to get yourself to a place where you can achieve acceptance.

• Take a pen and jot (or even doodle) down everything you’ve ever wanted to say to your anchor-person (or if it’s situational, personify the memory).
  Paper is tougher than you think, so don’t hold anything back. Now comes the hardest part: dispose of your letter. Bury it, shred it, or even burn it.  I thought this was stupid advice until I actually tried it. It felt wonderful.

• “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss 

•  be there for those who are there for you. This is a great step in building new and meaningful relationships to help focus on the present. Perhaps they’re anchored down, too. You can help each other. This is why reciprocated relationships are the only ones that truly work.

• Be grateful for where you're and what you’ve learned. Change your attitude and you'll change your life.

• Listen to happy music. Turn off the sad songs. Find something you can dance to.

• Smile like you've never cried, fight like you've never lost, love like you've never been hurt, and live like you'll die tomorrow.

“Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.”

—	Stephen King

if you got your heart broken, be sure to read My friend's, Catherine's post about Teenage Heartbreaks and about staying positive :)