How To Control your Anger?

Don't lose control if you get angry. Taking it out on others never solves anything.  

Here are some things to do when you are angry:

• talk to a friend you can trust
• count to 10
• get or give a hug
• do jumping jacks or another exercise
• draw a picture of your anger
• run around the outside of the house five times as fast as you can
• sing along with the stereo
• pull weeds in the garden
• think good thoughts (maybe about a fun vacation or your favorite sport)

Never getting angry is impossible. Instead, remember that how you act when you're angry can make the situation better or worse. Don't let anger be the boss of you. Take charge of it!

Now Here are some Bible Verses for you, so when the next time you wanna explode, this will pop to your mind: 

Proverbs 14:29

A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly

Matthew 5:22

But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, 'Raca, ' is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell.

• James 4:1-2

  What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?  You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God.

• Proverbs 16:32

  Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.
  
  

• Proverbs 22:24

  Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered,
  
  

  Colossians 3:8

  But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.

  
  

  Proverbs 15:1

  A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

  
  

  • Proverbs 29:11

    A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

  • James 1:20

    for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
    
    

    
    

How To Take Care of yourself when Depressed

• Aim for eight hours of sleep

 Depression typically involves sleep problems. Whether you’re sleeping too little or too much, your mood suffers. Get on a better sleep schedule by learning healthy sleep habits.

• Expose yourself to a little sunlight everyday

 Lack of sunlight can make depression worse. Make sure you’re getting enough. Take a short walk outdoors, have your coffee outside,or sit out in the garden. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day to boost your mood.

• Keep stress in check

Not only does stress worsen depression, but it can also trigger it.  Figure out all the things in your life that stress you out. 

• Practice relaxation techniques

 A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being. 

• Care for a pet

  Pets can bring joy and companionship into your life and help you feel less isolated. Caring for a pet can also get you outside of yourself and give you a sense of being needed—both powerful antidotes to depression.

Types of negative thinking that add to depression

All-or-nothing thinking 

 Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

Overgeneralization 

 Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I can’t do anything right.”)

The mental filter 

         

Ignoring positive events and focusing on the negative. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.

Diminishing the positive 

Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“She said she had a good time on our date, but I think she was just being nice.”)

Jumping to conclusions 

Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“He must think I’m pathetic”) or a fortune teller (“I’ll be stuck in this dead end job forever”)

Emotional reasoning 

Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel like such a loser. I really am no good!”)

‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’ 

Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do, and beating yourself up if you don’t live up to your rules.

Labeling 

 Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

We all have negative thoughts, it's normal, but we have to stop them if possible. we can't just let them go around our minds and make us weak. Honestly, we are the ones who create all this thoughts in our head, as if we are fortune tellers or mind readers. We don't have to worry about what's going to happen next or what people think about us. we just can't please everyone. This is YOUR life, so take it and enjoy it, in a Good Way! Never forget to call GOD when you are in trouble because he is the only one who listens to you 24/7 and he is the only one who can save you

Dealing with Depression

Depression drains your energy, hope, making it difficult to do what you need to feel better. But while overcoming depression isn't quick or easy, it’s far from impossible.  Feeling better takes time, but you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each day.

Depression self-help tip 1: Turn to trusted friends and family members
Share what you’re going through with the people you love and trust. Ask for the help and support you need. Don't hesitate to approach them because you think that they might call you an attention whore, you are going through some serious stuff and you deserve to be treated well by the people around you. 

Depression self-help tip 2:  Challenge negative thinking

You can’t break out of this pessimistic mind frame by “just thinking positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts.

Depression self-help tip 3: Take care of yourself
Have some ' Me time' or just do whatever that pleases you. It may Drawing, working out, eating or watching your favorite TV series. ( I have some posts about living a healthy and happy lifestyle. You can check them out if you want x ) 

Depression self-help tip 5: Eat a healthy, mood-boosting diet
I know it's hard to eat when you are depressed, but challenge yourself. NEVER SKIP MEALS. eat something at least every three to four hours.

 I know it's really hard to Deal with Depression, and it won't just happen Overnight. Take Baby steps and you will get used to it. If all of this won't work, call for a Professional Help and by Someone Professional I mean GOD. Pray to him, ask for his Presence and I promise you, He will make you feel 100% better. because God is Greater than our Problems, Nothing is impossible with him, Leave ALL of your Problems to God, Don't stress about anything because that will just waste your golden time. :) 

have a blessed day! ♡

♡ 10 tips for reaching out and building relationships ♡

• Call or email an old friend.
• Go for a walk with a workout buddy.
• Schedule a weekly dinner date.
• Meet new people by taking a class or joining a club.
• Confide in a counselor, therapist, or clergy member.

Talk to one person about your feelings. Help someone else by volunteering. Have lunch or coffee with a friend. Ask a loved one to check in with you regularly. Accompany someone to the movies, a concert, or a small get-together. ♡ If you need someone, you can always message or tweet me @monicaxtawide . I'd be more than happy to listen to your story and make you smile even Just a little xo

♡ Things to be happy about this JULY ♡

• seeing taillights in a downpour
• a day spent on the porch
• throwing everything into a sisal bag
• International Joke Day
• caring about spelling
• a bright red rose
• craft fairs
• large, fresh peaches
• "I Forgot Day"
• no sock marks on your ankles
• grass that is not growing
• a perfect dive
• plants from school grown in soup cans
• National Grilling Month
• light sarcasm
• long, sweeping hemlines
• five-bean salad
• watching fireworks from a roof
• jumping waves at top speed
• picnic food on Independence Day
• iced green tea with mint
• the whirring of an electric fan
• khaki-colored sandals
• riding a bike through bulrushes
• taking Workaholics Day off
• pansies in all colors
• giving little books as gifts
• cherry trees heavy with fruit
• the joy of sleep
• National Fried Chicken Day
• beach parties with friends
• a large seashell filled with potpourri
• lunch at the local coffee shop
• not needing anything = true affluence
• running down a toboggan slide
• saddling a horse
• Happy Chocolate Day!
• telling the truth
• meditating on nature's sounds
• gazpacho and ratatouille
• a vacation from computers
• the joys of listmaking
• the pasta box "viewing window"
• a red-checkered tablecloth
• sugar cookies
• mastering a technique
• saving someone from embarrassment
• really old stone fences
• a bark-free neighborhood
• selecting a gift for your friend
• a teddy bear picnic
• shinnying up the tallest tree
• cool floors on hot feet
• swimsuits drying
• crickets in cages
• living near the edge of a lake
• playing Twenty Questions
• a bulging new bag of chips
• a yellow enamel sink
• a very expensive white shirt
• the cat's special sleeping places
• practicing your tennis strokes
• a picnic supper
• browsing in a real bookstore
• your cat's birthday
• croquette after lunch
• sweeping sand up after a beach day
• holding hands at the movies
•  French Fries
• new eyeglasses
• blueberry cranberry bread
• gummi worms
• the plump-plump of a dribbled basketball
• a raincoat with a hood
• corn fritters and cold fruit soup
• bicycling in the morning
• having no regets
• not-too-big muffins
• a fresh start
• summerhouse lanterns
• a free evening
• air conditioning
• peach ice cream
• summer warmth
• an electronics-free zone
• a trowel in your back pocket
• high-end hotel toiletries
• taking a break
• a hair extension ponytail
• watching someone playing with LEGOS
• winning a race
• sleeping with a sheet only
• lollipops
• hand-worked linen
• Ice Creams
• working too hard and getting paid for it
• a beach full of sunscreened tanners
• no email messages
• unwrinkled paper money
• a coffee milkshake
• happiness within
• All or Nothing Day
• buttery hash browns
• starry nights
• hearing laughter outside
• a cat zigzagging among cows
• lasagna for dinner
• water music from a fountain
• a chair with a sidearm table
• waking to a pleasant thought
• saying "I don't understand"
• expecting that things will improve

What I wanted to Prove is that, there is something beautiful in everything. we just have to look closely and appreciate the things in life.

Words of Wisdom

your very best is good enough.

a friend is a present you give yourself 
get organized
there are just as many rich people miserable as there are poor people miserable
it is harder to stand up against a crowd than to go along with them
life is meant to be examined
the quest for wisdom insures survival
danger attracts more than safety
everybody could be wrong about what is right for you
be tough-minded but tenderhearted
we have an inherent need to feel productive
you cannot go far in a rowboat without oars
love makes both people stronger together than if they were separate
"More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren't so busy denying them." - Harold J. Smith
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
Those who walk with God reach their destination.
When you are down to nothing, God is up to something.

How can anyone ever love you for who you are if you become someone else to be with them?

You can only see others as clearly as you see yourself.

"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." - John Wooden

The world reflects what you need to see, not only what you want to see.

"The price of greatness is responsibility."- Sir Winston Churchill

Life isn’t about what happens to us. It’s about how we perceive what happens to us.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim; accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself."- Harvey Fierstein

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do." - Benjamin Franklin

"Everything you’re looking for lies behind the mask you wear." - Stephen C. Paul

"When you give up your own truth to win at someone else’s game everyone loses." - Stephen C. Paul

"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."- Theodore Roosevelt

"Your relationships reflect your fears and limits. How can anyone ever give you what you won’t allow?" - Stephen C. Paul

Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.

"The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way." - Karen S. Magee

Some men see things as they are, and say, "Why?" Still others dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?"

"People excel and learn, not because they are told to, but because they want to."- Peter Senge

"Live one day at a time and make it a masterpiece." - Dale West

Doubt asks who believes? Faith answers, "I".

Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.

Happiness lies ahead for those who cry; those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.

"You cannot discover oceans unless you have the courage to leave the shore."- Successories

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

"The first step in achieving prosperity and wealth is learning to appreciate what you already have." - S. Richardson

"Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk."- Dali Lama

"When you lose, don't lose the lesson."- Dali Lama

"Follow the three R's: Respect for self, respect for others and responsibility for all your actions."- Dali Lama

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck."- Dali Lama

"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship."- Dali Lama

"When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it."- Dali Lama

"Spend some time alone every day."- Dali Lama

"Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values." - Dali Lama

"Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer."- Dali Lama

"In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past."- Dali Lama

"Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality."- Dali Lama
"Be gentle with the earth."- Dali Lama
"Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other."- Dali Lama
"Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it."- Dali Lama
"Anger or hatred is like a fisherman's hook. It is very important for us to ensure we are not caught by it." - Dali Lama
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy practice compassion." - Dali Lama
"True spirituality is a mental attitude you can practice at any time." - Dalai Lama
In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.
"The first step toward change is acceptance." "Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do." "Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."- Will Garcia
LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE "We don't always know what makes us happy." "We know, instead, what we think SHOULD. We are baffled and confused when our attempts at happiness fail...We are mute when it comes to naming accurately our own preferences, delights, gifts, talents. The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled, by the voices of other people's expectations. The tongue of the original self is the language of the heart." - Julie Cameron
Even if you could live to be 100, it's really a very short time. So why not spend it undergoing this process of evolution, of opening your mind and heart, connecting with your true nature - rather than getting better and better at fixing, grasping, freezing, and closing down.
We are each unique beings with a unique path in life. If we wish to be fulfilled, we need to go to our own hearts for direction.
Master your past in the present, or your past will master your future.
Your mind can only hold one thought at a time make it a positive and constructive one.
People become what they expect themselves to become.

As you begin to live in the present moment, you will experience a subtle but profound change. Your worrying about the future will cease.

The good news: God is a nag. God won't give up, if we are destined to carry out some Divine idea, we won't be able to shrug it off. For me, God doesn't just whisper within. If I'm supposed to get a message, I start to see it and hear it everywhere - books, sermons, television shows, conversations with friends.

Focus on the positive in your life, for what you focus on increases.

Fall seven times get up eight.

Ignorance breeds fear. Fear breeds hate. Hate breeds violence.

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sail. Explore. Dream. Discover." Mark Twain

Peace, joy, health and well-being can only be found inside us. They exist within us now, waiting to be discovered. Yet we tend to look to the outside world to satisfy our needs and longings.

Our outer life reflects back to us the way we think, feel and behave. The outer world is all effects. Go to the source inside for all of life's treasures.

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless."- Mother Teresa

Those who confess ignorance show it once. The person who conceals it shows it many times.

"We cannot achieve more in life than what we believe in our heart of hearts we deserve to have." - James R. Ball

"A person's worth is contingent upon who he is, not upon what he does, or how much he has. The worth of a person, or a thing, or an idea, is in being, not in doing, not in having." - Alice Mary Hilton

To change our lives, we must first change our minds.

Education breeds confidence. Confidence breeds hope. Hope breeds peace.

Trust because you are willing to accept the risk, not because it’s safe or certain.

"It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees."- Dolores Ibarruri

Honor your feelings. They tell the truth about how you really experience the world.

When we encounter someone greater than ourselves, turn your thoughts to becoming his equal. When you encounter someone lesser than you, look within and examine your own self.

Your behavior while people are watching is important. However, your behavior while no one is watching is more important, for it reveals your true character.

Humans cannot create matter. We can, however, create value. Creating value is in fact, our very humanity. When we praise people for their strength of character we are actually acknowledging their ability to create value.

Dream more of becoming than of obtaining.

To a great extent, the people with whom you choose to associate influence the direction of your life.

Align your personality and soul purpose and experience more synchronicity, fulfillment and happiness. It is never too late to become the person you were meant to be.

"Knowing others is wisdom; Knowing the self is enlightenment." - Tao Te Ching

Know the difference between instinct and habit. Trust your instincts - question your habits.

"He, who fears he will suffer, already suffers from his fears."- Michel Eyquen

The fool who knows he is a fool is for that very reason wise. The fool who thinks himself wise is the greatest fool of all.

Let go of anger - it is an acid that burns away the delicate layers of your happiness.

"Re-examine all that you have been told... dismiss that which insults your soul."- Walt Whitman

We can try many ways to get rid of darkness, but none is as effective as simply increasing the light.

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission." - Eleanor Roosevelt

"The day firing becomes easy is the day to fire yourself." - Tom Peters.

In politics, if you want anything said, ask a man - if you want anything done, ask a woman.

"People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered; forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives: Be kind anyway. What you spend years creating others could destroy overnight: Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it may never be enough: Give your best anyway. In the final analysis, it is between you and God: it was never between you and them anyway." - Mother Teresa

"The world we are experiencing today is the result of our collective consciousness, and if we want a new world, each of us must start taking responsibility for helping create it." - Rosemary Fillmore Rh

"There is no limit to what can be accomplished when no one cares who gets credit." - John Wooden

Life gives us time only love gives us meaning.

"Success isn't permanent and failure isn't fatal." - Mike Ditka

Humor is contagious... Laughter is infectious... Both are good for your health.

That which you resist will persist.

A smile increases your face value.

If you haven’t any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble.

"It is easier to fight for one's principals than to live up to them."- Alfred Adler

We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go we take a little of each other everywhere.

"Things don't have to change the world to be important."- Steve Jobs

Strangers are just friends waiting to happen.

Don’t walk in front of me I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.

If we truly realized how precious the "Gift" of life is, we would not waste a moment trying to improve it. If we really understood how precious we are to the "Gift" of life we would not waste time trying to fix ourselves.

Our one choice: All men and women are born, live, suffer and die; what distinguishes us one from another is our dreams. Weather they be dreams about worldly or unworldly things, and what we do to make them come about.

Do not wish to be anything but what you are and to be that perfectly.

When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice.

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.

"Even if you're on the right track you'll get run over if you just sit there."- Will Rogers

The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend.

While you are proclaiming peace with your lips, be careful to have it even more fully in your heart.

There is no way to peace. Peace is the way.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.

It is not how much you have that makes people look up to you, it’s who you are.

To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.

It is not what you gather but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived.

People may fail many times, but they become failures only when they begin to blame someone else.

The only way to find the limits of the possible is by going beyond them to the impossible.

"If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door." - Milton Berle

In the pursuit of happiness, the difficulty lies in knowing when you have caught up.

Angels have no boundaries but are willing to respect yours.

Enlightenment is not achieved by repeating the word "God" but by directly experiencing God.

We can not take credit for our talents. It’s how we use them that counts.

Everywhere, truly those of integrity stand apart. They the good don’t chatter in hopes of favor or gains. When touched by pleasure or by pain the wise give no sign of highs or lows.

Recognize that you have the courage within you to fulfill the purpose of your birth. Summon forth the power of your inner courage and live the life of your dreams.

First I gave up action. Then idle words, and lastly thought itself. Now I am here.

Often we need to wait for things to unfold gloriously and to take time to listen to the angels. Good things come to those who wait to accept them with a grateful heart.

Although there are countless teachings that instruct how to obtain enlightenment in a future life, almost all of them are nothing more than expedients, as the ultimate instruction there is simply no teaching that is superior to the true practice of the awakening to one’s own nature.

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. - Carl Bard

"When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left." - Sufi

Neglecting valuable advice, an ignorant man becomes the cause of his own misery.

"There may be more to learn from climbing the same mountain a hundred times then by climbing a hundred different mountains." - Richard Nelson

"Learn to look with an equal eye upon all beings, seeing the one Self in all." - Srimad Bhagavatam

Heading in the wrong direction? God allows U turns.

The Ten Commandments are not multiple choice.

"My way is the highway" - God

"Doubt limits you from what is already yours, but faith unlocks the doors allowing you to walk in and receive it." - Jeannette Tyson Gregory

We have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way, we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is remember to keep a positive attitude. It will keep our burdens light.

You can tell that you’re doing the right thing if it feels effortless.

"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." - Henry Ford

"If you are doing your best you will not have time to worry about failure." - Robert S. Hillyer

"Before you speak ask yourself, is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?" - Sai Baba

It’s impossible to have too much fun.

Faith doesn't get you around trouble, it gets you through it.

"It’s not enough to know your truth, you must live it." - Stephen C. Paul

"If you keep doing what you've always done - you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." - Kenneth Blanchard

"If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse; however if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that." - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Happiness isn’t getting what you want, but experiencing who you are.

"When you relinquish the desire to control your future you obtain happiness." - Nicole Kidman

"Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people." — Admiral Hyman G. Rickover 

"To be blind is bad, but worse is to have eyes and not see." - Helen Keller

"Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth." - Scott Peck

"The value of the personal relationship to all things is that it creates intimacy and intimacy creates understanding and understanding creates love." - Anais Nin

"To me, wholeness is the key to aliveness. It is more than just physical vitality, it is radiance, coming from being at one with yourself and your experience. Life then flows through you." - Richard Moss, How Shall I Live

"Birth and death are not different states, but they are different aspects of the same state." - Ghandi

"Failure is a part of success. There is no such thing as a bed of roses all your life. But failure will never stand in the way of success if you learn from it." - Hank Aaron

"I like who I am as a person. And because I believe that there's much more to me than my looks, other people believe it too." - Felicia P. Fields

"Allowing the truth of who you are--your spiritual self--to rule your life means you stop the struggle and learn to move with the flow of your life." - Oprah Winfrey

"Spirituality for me is recognizing that I am connected to the energy of all creation, that I am a part of it-?and it is always a part of me." - Oprah Winfrey

"Be a witness, not a judge. Focus on yourself, not on others. Listen to your heart, not to the crowd." - Ma Zu

"The divine is not something high above us. It is in heaven, it is in earth, it is inside us..." - Morihei Ueshiba

"You don't need organized religion to connect with the universe. Often a church is the only place you can go to find peace and quiet... But it shouldn't be confused with connecting with one's spirit." - Alice Walker

"Meditation is the joy to be yourself. Meditation is the courage to be yourself. Meditation will make you unique and will make you rejoice in being different from the others. Meditation is the way to be yourself." - Tishan

“Fear grows out of the things we think; it lives in our minds. Compassion grows out of the things we are, and lives in our hearts.” – Barbara Garrison